What is Real ?

Many of us have read the famous poem “If” by Rudyard Kipling.
I personally love the poem. It is so wise and inspiring and verbalizes
the truly appropriate emotions in our hearts.


If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

However, with years, I have come to realize that the world
is but one’s own perception of reality. We will never quite
appreciate all of the infinite views standing at a particular vantage point.
If we think of our minds, they are not limited to the three dimensions.
Needless to say the mental views are varied and innumerable.

If we agree to this line of thinking, then what is real in this world ?

Hari Om tat sat


Random thoughts

Sometimes there is no one to listen, no one to understand the jumble of thoughts that crowd the mind.
It just hurts inside to keep them pent up. The deep emotions don’t have words. When you try to verbalize it makes no sense to others.
Are you alone, even with everything around you?
“Immanuel Kant said that we cannot possibly see the noumenal world, the true world independent of perceptions. We only see our personal version, our interpretation of a reality that is out there.”
– from http://www.soulsofdistortion.nl/SODA_chapter3.html

The concept of ‘part contains the whole’ is an apparently paradoxical concept which manifests itself in this universe. A conscious mind is able to connect with the material world around it, seamlessly. People can draw energy from the outer world and the feeling of being alone is removed.

Feeling Loved

Yesterday, several people quickly pointed out my mistakes. It shot in like a sharp knife and struck my heart. Some shared their frustrations as if I had something to do with it. When I was sad I focused on some immediate errands and tired myself out.
At night I lay awake in bed. I thought what if no one loves me because I make so many mistakes? I knew that something compassionate still lay in my core that did not care about my shortcomings. That was why I was still living and breathing.
The morning came after darkness and eased some of the pain. I do not know why all these things happen. I will hold on to my hope to find the purpose of my life. I will be alert and acknowledge.
At midday I took a walk and looked at the colorful trees. Some had bright red leaves, some had soft yellow ones. Yet others had a dark shades of red in places with green leaves on the opposite side. They were naturally beautiful. They played in the breeze and greeted me. I was forced to stretch the facial muscles into a smile. They asked me “Happy?” I knew the answer in my heart.

Why do we get scared ?

Sometimes it takes a lot of courage to do new things. My nine year old expressed that she feels scared in a crowd of people. Reading up on this some more, I found that it is not very uncommon to develop anxiety because of possible scrutiny from others in a social gathering. This leads to distress and removes clear thinking.
As a kid, I had some social anxiety too. Is this just part of growing up? Is there some concrete ways to deal with this. For me constant exposure brought familiarity. Another way to overcome was to accept the dangers and face them. Best one was to put off the fear and not think about it at all.

Marriage: A thing of the past ?

Many Indians remember an old Hindi movie dialog “Ek chutki sindor ke kimat tum kya jano Ramesh Babu.( How would men understand what the symbol of marriage means to a woman.)”. Surprisingly, it is not easy to understand what marriage means to women in this day and age. It may be worthwhile to revisit some of the basics: the traditional meaning of marriage, its benefits, challenges and finally some of the factors that led to the redefinition of marriage in today’s world. Read more…