Misht Doi Recipe

mishtidoiRecipe for a delicious Bengali sweet — Mishti Doi

I will admit that I am not an expert at this but the final product came out really delicious.  I used the link below as the starting point but made my own adjustments the next time around so that the yogurt sets well and is less sweet.

Ingredients:

  1. 3tbsp – strained plain Greek yogurt – full fat version
  2. 6 oz – sweetened condensed milk
  3. 7 floz – evaporated milk

Follow the directions in the video (below)

Story of Kalidasa

Long long time ago, in India near the city of Ujjain lived a king who had a beautiful and learned daughter, Vidyottama. The princess was very proud of her learning. She would often put down the wise men in the king’s court. They started to dislike her even though they were afraid to show it outwardly. One day a group of wise men walking by the forest saw a very unusual sight. A handsome young man was sitting on the tip of one of the upper branches and trying to chop of the branch from its base. The wise men immediately agreed that this man was a great fool. This man was none other than Kalidasa. They decided to use him to take revenge on Vidyottama.

Vidyottama was of marriageable age. She had decided to only marry a man who was wiser than her. The wise men brought the marriage proposal to the king. They also mentioned that Kalidasa was a very learned man who was on  a month long maun-vrat (the vow of silence). It was considered that maun-vrat brought purity of mind and speech and was practiced by many sages in those days. The king was impressed by the beauty of the young man and the praises from the wise men of his court. However, Vidyottama was not going to be satisfied before she tested his learning, herself. A debate was arranged where Vidyottama and Kalidasa would only communicate through gestures.

The princess raised her index finger . Kalidasa, quickly replied by showing two fingers. He had thought that Vidyottama was meaning to poke him in one eye. He was obviously thinking of outdoing her. Actually she had indicated that God is one without a second.  Kalidasa’s answer was wisely interpreted as the truth has two parts the supreme God and the individual soul. She was surprised by this wisdom. Venturing further, she showed her five fingers to indicate five senses. Kalidasa thought she was about to slap him so he showed his fist.  This time Vidyottama thought it to mean that controlling the five senses can lead to ultimate greatness. Thus impressed, she then agreed to marry Kalidasa.

Shortly after their marriage, one night there was a camel growling outside. When the princess asked her husband “What is that?”, she expected a wise reply. But Kalidasa stammered to say the word camel in Sanskrit (ushtra). The princess understood that Kalidasa was no learned man but a fool. So she drove him out of the palace.

Heartbroken, Kalidasa was about to commit suicide. He was a devotee of Kali. He prayed to Her to grant him wisdom. With the blessings of Goddess Kali, Kalidasa was endowed with knowledge and wit. He became one of the greatest  Sanskrit poets of all times (mahakavi) and one of the “nine jewels” of the court of King Vikramaditya.

Anger analysis

Fists, curses and bad blood are common in a scene of anger. It’s an intense and overwhelming feeling that many of us have experienced.  As with extremely powerful forces there is associated uncontrollable damage.  Before we get caught up in the whirlwind of its influence, how do we trace the trigger ?

Why do we get angry? On the surface there are tons on reasons that could fill and overflow any amount of writing material or use up hours of discussion. The basic cause may be an apparently  innocuous perception.  We may assume a threat and see ourselves as a victim. When this idea crystallizes, it bring in feelings of unfairness, unease and incapacity to cope.  We then set the stage for a powerful recovery to restore propriety.

We may find, later on, that the threat was largely in our mind. But what the mind once spawns off, now takes it own course. Unfortunately, the tremendous energy is not under the control of our rational mind.  It goes beyond setting things right and makes us do wrong things. Regret is a normal aftermath of unleashed anger.

Suppressed anger causes health issues and depression. 

Are there ways to stop anger from growing in the first place ?

The first step is preventative: cultivating an inner contentment and calmer state of mind as recommended by Dalai Lama  -“The Art of Happiness by Dalai Lama and Howard C Cutler”

Observe, Accept and be thankful..