Travel Story

Here a travelogue from when we visted Kauai about 5 years ago:

https://bdnews24.com/travelandtourism/2018/02/21/a-tour-of-the-garden-isle-of-hawaii

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Tu Jo Mila

I would like to share this soulful song, sung by KK in the movie Bajrani Bhaijaan
Ashiyaana Tera Saath Mere Hai Na
Dhoondte Teri Gali, Mujhko Ghar Mila
Aab-O-Daana Tera, Haath Mere Hai Na
Dhoondte Tera Khuda, Mujhko Rab Mila
Isn’t your home with me by your side
Looking through your alley, I have found my home
I have taken responsibility of your needs and subsistence
And in searching for your God, I have found mine.
Tu Jo Mila..Lo Ho Gaya Main Qaabil
Tu Jo Mila..To Ho Gaya Sab Haasil Haan..
Mushkil sahi, asaan hui manzil
Kyunki Tu Dhadkan..Main Dil…
Now that I found you, I find myself capable.
Now that I found you, I have achieved everything.
Even though it’s difficult, we are making progress towards our destination,
Because you are the throbbing of my own heart.

Rooth jaana tera, Maan jaana mera
Dhoondhte teri hansi, Mill gayi khushi
Raah hoon main teri, Rooh hai tu meri
Dhoondhte tere nishaan, Mill gayi khudi
With you getting angry, with me conceding
In trying to make you smile, I have found my happiness.
I am the path you tread, while you are my soul,
In trying to find your identity, I have discovered myself!

Tu Jo Mila..Lo Ho Gaya Main Qaabil
Tu Jo Mila..To Ho Gaya Sab Haasil Haan..
Mushkil sahi, asaan hui manzil
Kyunki Tu Dhadkan..Main Dil…
Now that I found you, I find myself capable.
Now that I found you, I have achieved everything.
Even though it’s difficult, we are making progress towards our destination,
Because you are the throbbing of my own heart.

Tu Jo Mila..Lo Ho Gaya Main Qaabil
Tu Jo Mila..To Ho Gaya Sab Haasil..Haan
Tu Jo Mila..Aasaan Hui Mushkil….
Kyunki Tu Dhadkan..Main Dil…
Now that I found you, I find myself capable.
Now that I found you, I have achieved everything.
Now that I found you, all difficuties are becoming easy,
Because you are the throbbing of my own heart.

Bint-e-dil – Emotionally yours

Another unique love song by the super-talented musician and heart-breaker Arijit Singh:

Bint-e-dil Misariya mein -x(4)
Pesh hai kullu shabaab khidmat-e-aali janab  (2)
Aatish kada adaaon se (2),
Jal uthega aap ke,
Dee-da-e-tar ka hijaab

The girl I love is in Egypt
I dedicate my entire virility to the service of you, my lady.
With the seductive gestures that kindle the ever-burning desire,
the veil of your tearful eyes will be burnt

Bint-e-dil Misariya mein -(2).
Mehkash labon pe aane lagi hain pyasi qurbatein
Hairat-zada thikane lagi hain saari phurqatein -(2).
Aarizon pe mere likh zara,
Riffatein chahaton ka sila

The girl I love is in Egypt
The alluring lips are thirsting for close intimacy,
All the distances separating us have very surprisingly vanished now.
Please write on my cheeks, the culmination of this intense desire

Bint-e-dil Misariya mein -(2).
Pesh hai kullu shabaab khidmat-e-aali janab
Aatish kada adaaon se (2), Jal uthega aap ke,
Dee-da-e-tar ka hijaab

The girl I love is in Egypt
I dedicate my entire virility to the service of you, my lady.
With the seductive gestures that kindle the ever-burning desire,
the veil of your tearful eyes will be burnt

 

Are you my Mentor ?

The month of January is celebrated in the USA, as the national mentoring month to promote mentoring among youth.

Who is a mentor?

A quick answer to that question, is someone who solves your problems or provides advice. A better perspective to answer this is to consider the long term effect of mentoring. A mentor is one who successfully develops a mentee (the person she or he is mentoring).

Oprah Winfrey explained, “I mentor when I see something and say, ‘I want to see that grow’ ”

It is a mutual relationship that leaves no doubt in either’s mind.  In most cases if you find yourself asking the question, “Are you my mentor?”, then the answer is probably no.

The interactions may be frequent or few and far between  but mentoring is a lasting relationship.

What are the benefits of mentoring ?

  • To the mentee –
    1. Develops a supportive relationship
    2. Helps in problem solving
    3. Build self-confidence
    4. Encourage to question and learn
  • To the mentor –
    1. Improve inter-personal skills
    2. Growth through new perspectives
    3. Validation of practices
    4. Job satisfaction

 

What are the qualities of a good mentor ?

  • Subject matter expert – A mentor has in-depth knowledge and experience in the area that the mentee is developing in.
  • Mentee is encouraged to lead – A mentor promotes the mentee to lead and pace his /her own development.
  • Long term focus – The pupose of the mentorship relation is growth and development. This allows for short term mistakes and set backs.
  • Challenge and re-evaluation – Mentor may appropriately set challenge goals for the mentee. He/she will periodically re-evaluate previously set targets/ goals for relevance and capability.
  • Patience – A good mentor allows mentees to develop at their own pace.
  • Integrity – Trust is a key component to a successful mentoring relationship.
  • Discipline – Mentor emphasizes the importance of discipline in developing successful life-long habits.
  • Foresight – Due their prior experience a mentor may be able to provide guidance to a mentee in similar situations.
  • Openess to learn – A good mentor should be open to learn from the mentee also.
  • Value Foundation – Mentors provide guidance to grow and develop the mentee’s own values. Generally, mentorship relations are not meant to achieve a specific goal.

mentoring

Reflection

Mind creates enjoyment
Hopes, fears n’ sorrow.
It takes or rejects
And can also let go.

Mind has compassion
for every life form
No need for words,
Vibrations are strong

Mind builds a dream
to climb the mountains
or wallow in depths
of jealousy and pity

Inside a lone strife
find the sufferer, I.
A mind in surrender
merges with the bliss.

মাটির গল্প

পথের আঁকে বাঁকে
কলসি নিয়ে কাঁখে
রাঙা মাটির পরে
রাঙা মেয়ে চলে |

ছলকে পরলো জল
ভিজলো পদতল
মাটির উপর চাপ
নিখুঁত পায়ের ছাপ |

রোদ্দুর আর ছায়ে
আলতা পরা পায়ে
চলে তন্বী কায়া
একলা সাথী ছায়া |

হঠাৎ কালো ঝড়
বুক কাঁপে ধড়ফড়
আঁচল টেনে নেয়
কলসি ঠেলে দেয় |

সেই ঘাত প্রতিঘাতে
বাসনা রাঙা হাতে
শক্ত চেপে ধরা
ফাটল মাটির ঘড়া |

জল রক্তের স্রোত
বহে অক্ষম ক্রোধ
রাঙা শাড়ি ওড়ে
রাঙা মাটির পরে |

মাটির তৈরি মেয়ে
মাটিতে মিশে গিয়ে
নির্দয় ভবের খেলা
সাঙ্গ হলো এইবেলা ||

Thoughts on rules

  1. To judge right and wrong we need to know that we “are” what we measure. What is not measured is not judged. But still, those factors may have a huge impact (over time) on the quality of “what is being measured”. How can that be accounted for? The criteria put together to qualify for a position should not undermine the basic expectations. Isn’t a teacher/guide just like a mother or father to little kids? Do they help build self-confidence and decision-making power?
  2. How do we inculcate tolerance for differences, for example, a difference in gender? How do we promote mutual respect? What are the pillars of human behavior?Do we believe that there is something good in every human-being, irrespective of how different they seem? Are we giving respect to others and ourselves?
  3. In a relationship, shouldn’t the person with the greater power take greater responsibility? How can we stop looking for quick fixes/ band-aids and go for the real cure? How do we promote humans who understand what is right for themselves?  How do we create a society, where people are compassionate rather than judging each other?
  4. When a person is overpowered by animal instincts do they think about right or wrong? Do they think about punishment? Does the current judiciary system work? How do we reform those who have gone astray? Are we going to give up on them and treat them how we never want to be treated? Aren’t we all humans capable of love?
  5. Are we focussing on moving forward, the right way? How are we (the human race) going to be saved if men and women cannot co-exist peacefully? What are the things that need to be highlighted? How do we connect it to each individual’s emotions ?